50 Flirty Texts for Him and for Her, Sorted by What Just Happened

Where this page starts and where the others stop

If you need a first message to a stranger, that is a different job and it lives on the rizz lines hub. If you want short lines sorted by tone for someone who has already flirted back, the flirty and romantic variants under each target on rizz lines and smooth pick up lines cover that, and the bold and suggestive tier by target lives on dirty pick up lines. Those pages answer "what tone, for whom." This page answers "what do I send now that this happened." Every line below is written as a reply inside a conversation that already exists.

Four situations, for him and for her:

• after a few days of silence
• after the first date
• first thing in the morning
• when the thread has gone flat

Pick your situation, pick the line closest to your thread, and swap in one detail that is actually yours. The edit is small on your screen and large on theirs:

• From the list: Fair warning: I replayed the part where you laughed at my bad joke. Twice.
• With your detail: Fair warning: I replayed you defending your parallel parking. Twice.

The second one could only have been sent to one person. That is the whole trick, and it works on every line on this page.

Flirty texts for him

Each block below assumes a decision has already been made: you want to text him, and you want it to sound like you mean it.

After a few days of silence

Still deciding whether to text at all? That call, and one calm, low-pressure follow-up, are on the left on read guide. Nothing here helps you decide. These reopen the thread as flirting, not as a question about where he went.

• Your silence has been very loud. I've decided to be louder.
• Three days and no update. I need to know: did you miss me, or just my texts?
• I was going to wait for you to text first. Turns out I'm not that patient about you.
• Reappearing in your notifications like I never left. Miss me yet?
• You went quiet and I filled the gap thinking about you. That's on you.

After the first date

One message for each way the night could have ended, including a kind close when it is not there for you, is the job of the guide on what to text after a first date. Start there if that message is still unsent. These come after it, for when the night went well and the follow-up should flirt rather than just confirm a second date.

• Got home and I'm still smiling at my phone, so this is your fault.
• Fair warning: I replayed the part where you laughed at my bad joke. Twice.
• You're better in person than in your photos, and your photos were the reason I said yes.
• Next time I'm picking the place, and I'm not letting you leave that early.
• I told my roommate it was "fine." It was not fine. It was very good.

First thing in the morning

A morning text works because it arrives before anything else has happened to him that day. Keep it short. It should read like a thought, not a plan.

• Woke up thinking about you. Not sorry. Go have a good day.
• Good morning. You were in my dream and you behaved. Disappointing.
• Morning. Just checking you're still as cute as you were last night.
• First coffee is for me. First text is for you. Priorities.
• Whatever you're doing today, do it knowing someone's thinking about you. That someone is me, obviously.

When the thread has gone flat

The replies got polite, the gaps got longer, nobody is flirting. Name it and turn the temperature back up. This is also the block people mean when they search for something to make him blush or give him butterflies.

• You've been very polite for two days. I liked you better when you were flirting.
• Quick question: are you always this charming, or are you saving it for me?
• I keep rereading your messages and finding new ways to like you. Rude of you.
• This chat needs more of you being interesting at me. Go.
• I'm officially distracted. You could at least text me something worth it.

Flirty texts to make him laugh

Funny works in any of the situations above, and it is the safest way to flirt when you are not sure how warm the thread is. The joke stays on you, so there is nothing for him to take the wrong way.

• I ranked my crushes. You're first. There's only one entry, but still.
• You're my favorite reason to check my phone, narrowly beating the group chat.
• I'd say you're on my mind, but "mind" is a strong word for what happens when you text me.
• Just so you know, I practiced this text on my dog. He seemed into it.
• If you're free tonight, I'm free tonight. If you're busy, I'm still free tonight. No pressure.
• You're annoyingly good at this. Please stop. Don't stop.

If none of these fit what he actually wrote: paste the thread into RIZZER and it writes replies from what was said. Flirty is one of nine styles you can pick, and three come already selected. As a guest you see the natural reply; confirm your email, which is free, and every style you picked comes back. It drafts; you choose, edit and send. It cannot tell you whether he is interested.

Flirty texts for her

Same four situations, different lines, written for a man texting a woman he is already talking to. Nothing here is the block above with the pronouns changed.

After a few days of silence

Whether a follow-up makes sense at all is the left on read guide's question, and it answers with one calm message per case. Skip it if you have already decided. You are texting her, and the reopening should feel like interest rather than a status check.

• I kept the chat open for three days. Consider that my honest opinion of you.
• I was being respectful and giving you space. I'm done with that now. Hi.
• Thought about you at least once a day since we last talked. Report back on your end.
• You went quiet and I noticed, which tells you how often I check for your name.
• I could pretend I'm texting you for a reason. The reason is you.
• Your last message has been sitting there like an unanswered dare. I'm answering it.

After the first date

The first date guide closes the loop on the evening: one message for each way it ended, with a next step attached. Once that message is sent and the night was good, the lines below are the second one, the one that lets her know you are still thinking about it.

• I'm home, and I'm already thinking about what I should've said when you were laughing at me.
• Whatever you did with your hair, I'm going to be thinking about it for the rest of the week.
• That was the first date in a while where I didn't check the time once. Round two, my pick?
• You should know I was nervous for the first ten minutes. Then you laughed and that was that.
• Still thinking about the way you argued with me about that movie. I'd like to lose again soon.
• I meant to wait a day before texting you. Lasted about an hour. When are you free?

First thing in the morning

One thought, sent once, with no question that needs answering before she has had coffee.

• Morning. You were the first thing on my mind, and I had coffee to get to.
• Good morning. I'm going to be thinking about you until I see you, and I wanted you to know that early.
• You'd look good with a coffee in your hand right now. Send proof.
• I set an alarm to text you. That's a lie, but I would have.
• Morning. Whatever happens today, this text was the best part of mine.
• I woke up in a good mood and it's suspiciously your fault.

When the thread has gone flat

One-word answers, longer gaps, polite on both sides. Say out loud that you noticed, and put the interest back on the table. If you searched for something to make her blush, you are in the right block.

• We've been very polite for a week. I'd like to be less polite.
• You keep sending me one-word answers and I keep finding them charming. Help.
• This chat is missing something. I think it's you telling me something you've never told anyone.
• I'm going to keep being into you until you say something about it.
• I'm not asking about your whole day. Just the part where you thought about me.
• Confession: I like you more than I've said. Your move.

If the right line depends on what she said: paste the thread or a screenshot into RIZZER and pick the flirty style. It drafts from the conversation you actually have, under the same account and email rules described above. You choose, you edit, you send.

The one thing that works better than the perfect line

Everything above is a starting point. What decides whether a flirty text lands is usually not the wording. It is whether the message matches how the other person is already texting you.

A 2022 study in the Southern Communication Journal had 200 people upload five to seven screenshots each of their own real flirty texts with a partner, 1,042 screenshots in total, and combined that with a survey. The pattern in those threads was similarity: people wanted, and produced, messages that matched their partner in length, in frequency, in emoji use and in timing. One limit on that: we read the study's published abstract, not the full paper, so the numbers above are the authors' own summary, and we cannot tell you how strong the effect was or exactly who was in the sample.

So, in practice: if he writes two lines, send two lines. If she replies twice a day, do not send five. If he uses no emoji, one line with no emoji reads as attention; three emoji read as a different person. Pick a line from the blocks above, then trim it or extend it to the size of what they last sent you.

There is a second finding worth knowing, and it cuts against the whole idea of this page. A 2018 survey of 205 US adults aged 18 to 29, published in Computers in Human Behavior, found that how similarly partners initiated contact, including just saying hello, was a more consistent predictor of how satisfied they were than how similar their messages were in content or tone. That is a correlation in a young sample, not a cause. We checked the journal record for that paper but could not read its abstract, which sits behind the publisher's wall; the sample and the result come from three published summaries that agree with each other. The takeaway still holds: showing up regularly matters more than any single clever message. Send the flirty text, and then send the boring "morning" one tomorrow too.

When the line has to fit something specific they wrote: paste the thread into RIZZER. It drafts from the actual messages, so what you get is written for that thread rather than pulled from a list. Sizing it to their last message is still your call, and so is sending it.

When not to flirt like this

Three signals mean the lines on this page are the wrong tool right now:

• You sent one reopening message and a week has passed with nothing back. A second flirty line is not a better first one.
• They said, in any words, that they are not comfortable or would rather slow down. That answer stands until they change it.
• Their replies have gotten short, slow and factual. Flirting into a cold thread reads as not listening.

How much flirting is right for a given thread, and how to read the response before you add more, is a separate question. The guide on how to flirt over text covers that method properly and this page will not repeat it.